Emotional Validation = Emotional Manipulation
The day I decided enough is enough is the day I couldn’t stop visualizing myself in the air with my arms and legs stretched out with hooks from different people on me. My fear turned to anger...Fire…
Anger towards others for preying on vulnerability and a lot of anger towards myself for allowing it for so long. This is the anger I was guided to utilize in a balance way to heal myself… Alchemizing wounds…
Meditation, nature walks, staring at candle flames, sitting in front of the ocean watching and hearing the waves crashing are all ways that have helped go inward as well as expelling unwanted energies. It wasn’t until I started meditating that I noticed the feeling of murkiness and tension leaving my mind and body.
I will stress this though, there are some wounds and trauma that you may not be able to face alone, especially at the very beginning. When I started breaking the cycle, I broke it left and right! Not only did I break the cycle by going to a therapist, I went to tarot/oracle readers as well! I had those sessions scheduled back to back because healing to me meant opening myself to ALL of it. Allowing myself to learn as much as possible and taking what really resonates with me in a personal level. One of the core things I’ve learned is that I don’t have to agree with EVERY single point of view from one person, but I acknowledge that there is some truth in everything. I became receptive to accepting that just because it is not my truth, doesn’t mean that it is not the other person’s truth.
Opening yourself to being receptive to accepting other people’s truths unlocks something very sacred in yourself. It allows you to recognize what you truly believe in, what you truly stand for… your authenticity. Knowing your authenticity is when the chains start breaking. You no longer start seeing the world through someone else’s lense and perception. You start unchaining yourself from needing validation from people that may never share your views or worse, from people that purposely use your need of being validated to manipulate. Emotional manipulation can also be internalized. Sometimes we create our own emotional manipulation due to childhood wounds, family/social dynamics, etc. Detaching from these have been more painful, at least to me, because most of it comes from family members’ subconscious actions and generational cycles (I will go more in depth on another day). It is helpful to go inward and seek what is the root of your need to be validated. Trace your memories as back as you can possibly remember. Your first memories, Your first tears “tantrums,” Your first fears. Your first joys. To dismantle the illusions, is to sit with the discomfort. Allow yourself to feel without present-day thoughts and judgements.
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